The Conversation that Can Save Someone’s Life | Part 2
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When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
Psalm 34:17 ESV
Life can be unpredictable, and the challenges it throws our way can feel overwhelming.
If you find yourself in a position where a loved one is struggling with suicidal thoughts, it's important to intervene with empathy, understanding, and a commitment to be supportive.
Your support has to come without demands, judgment, or condescending comments.
How do you help someone with suicidal thoughts?
First, you’re in the right place by reading to learn more about the guidance and resources for loved ones facing this difficult reality.
1. Recognizing the Signs:
The first step in helping your loved one is recognizing the signs of suicidal thoughts.
These signs may include a combination of the following:
withdrawing from friends and family,
changes in their sleep patterns,
an increase in risky behavior,
words of hopelessness, and/or
giving away possessions.
If you observe any of these signs, it's crucial that you do not to ignore them and to take action immediately.
Someone who is normally spending time with others but is now spending most of their time alone, can be a sign of pulling away from life.
Oversleeping can happen when the person has a low motivation to get out of bed. The world feels too heavy to bear.
Have you noticed that your loved one is drinking more alcohol? Doing daring things to jeopardize their safety? An increase of risky behaviors is showing a lack of self-care.
Feelings of hopelessness can sound like, “Things aren’t going to get better,” or “I wish I were never born.”
While this these things can be painful to hear, another red flag is when your loved one is giving away their possessions.
If they cherish their golf clubs but you notice that they gave them to a cousin, it is going to be important to show concern, ask questions, and listen to your gut instincts.
2. Open Communication:
Creating a safe space for open and honest communication is crucial.
Encourage your loved one to express their feelings without judgment. This means that you cannot jump to conclusions nor pass any judgements.
Let them know that you are there to listen, and assure them that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Seeking help shows their willingness to bring in more resources.
Be patient, understanding, and avoid feeding into any of your negative emotions that may come up. It can be tempting to feel angry. It’s understandable that you would be devastated if your loved one ended their life.
Thinking about your feelings in this moment, will not ultimately help your loved one. Shift your focus to their needs and how you can help them. This will let them know that you are truly listening.
If this communication suggestion is too heavy or, too burdensome for you to do on your own, read on for the next tip.
3. Seek Professional Help:
Suicidal thoughts can get better with professional help. Encourage your loved one to speak with a mental health professional, such as a mental health therapist or counselor.
Talking about suicide in counseling does not necessarily mean that you will go straight to the hospital. I repeat, just because you feel suicidal, it doesn’t mean you will be involuntarily admitted to a mental health facility.
Your therapist will talk with you about your risk, safety measures, and will likely involve your family members to help better support you.
As the family member, offer your support in finding the right person and attending sessions together if they feel comfortable.
In a crisis, contact emergency services immediately by dialing 911. You can also go to the nearest emergency room.
Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.
Call or text 988
Chat at 988lifeline.org
Connect with a trained crisis counselor. 988 is confidential, free, and available 24/7/365.
Visit the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline for more information at 988lifeline.org
4. Remove Access to Means:
If your loved one has expressed suicidal thoughts, take steps to remove access to any potential means like medications and firearms.
Surprisingly, over-the-counter medicines, like Tylenol can be the most lethal medication due to its accessibility and availability.
If your teenager is suicidal, don’t be surprised if they know how to access your gun safe. Kids are smart and can’t be underestimated.
Removing access to means may involve having an open conversation about safety and seeking support from mental health professionals to create a secure environment.
5. Build a Support Network:
Support is crucial, not only for your loved one but also for yourself. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups who can offer understanding and assistance.
It's essential to share the burden and prevent feelings of isolation.
6. Encourage Self-Care:
Taking care of oneself is often overlooked in times of crisis. Encourage your loved one to find activities that bring them joy and relaxation.
Whether it's a hobby, exercise, or spending time in nature, self-care can play a pivotal role in the recovery process. A lot of times, it is just as valuable to relax, take time off work, cut back on the hustle & bustle, and allow space to slow down.
7. Stay Informed:
Taking the step to read this article is the beginning of educating yourself about mental health, suicidal thoughts, and available resources. Being informed empowers you to better support your loved one and advocate for their needs.
Most importantly, if you suspect something is “off”, check in with your loved one. You can always call the police department to ask for a “wellness check.”
If you are reading this article and are struggling with suicidal thoughts, among the other recommendations already provided, remember the words from Jeremiah 29:11: “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”
The Lord has great plans for you. Those plans are normally far greater than we could ever think of by ourselves.
In times of discouragement, I pray that you can find hope, healing, and restoration in your church community, listening to Christian music, and in your quiet time of prayer.
There is a brighter tomorrow.
Conclusion
Supporting a loved one through the challenges of suicidal thoughts is undoubtedly one of the most difficult experiences one can face.
However, by approaching the situation with compassion, open communication, and a commitment to seeking professional help, you can play a crucial role in your loved one's journey towards recovery.
Remember, you are not alone – there is help and hope available for both of you.
Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.
Call or text 988
Chat at 988lifeline.org
Connect with a trained crisis counselor. 988 is confidential, free, and available 24/7/365.
Visit the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline for more information at 988lifeline.org
